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Kerri's thoughts and insights - Kerrberr2's Blog - TheJHub.com http://www.thejhub.com/home/Blog/Kerrberr2 en-us How is everyone? http://www.thejhub.com/home/Blog/Kerrberr2/448 http://www.thejhub.com/home/Blog/Kerrberr2/448 <p>How is everyone in Pocatello and the surrounding area?  Me I am doing great!  Actually I have to say I am really quite surprised.  You might ask why?  </p> <p>Well as most of you know I write a lot about me being a big girl.  It is quite an issue that  have fought basically all my life.  Because of my size I always have felt that people were looking at me instead of seeing me.  The real me.  Well I turn 40 in October and I guess I felt like "Oh my Gosh!  I am going to be 40 and I am still single!!"  Well I finally decided to let go of my fears and start doing some dating.  </p> <p>To my surprise I have actually met quite a few people that accept me for me.  The last 18 years I have been so scared to meet people.  Yes me the outgoing crazy girl I can be was afraid to date!  Shocking  know but I have had a lot of reasons.  I have had guys actually tell me how no one would want me or that my size was such a turn off.  You know that "If you would just lose weight guys would notice you " crap.  </p> <p>Well in 1996 I had gastric bypass surgery for weight loss.  I lost close to 200 or so pounds.  I was looking good and I felt good.  Did it really matter not really.  I saw guys check me out but I didn't have anymore dates than I did when I was over 300 lbs.  Yes I did get married but what a mistake that was.  It only lasted 2 years and I was miserable.  But that is another story.</p> <p>Anyways, I started chatting on line with people and when a guy asked me to meet him for coffee I decided to not make my usual excuses and headed to Starbucks.  You know not everyone you meet is going to be Prince Charming but life is too short and I need friends too. </p> <p> If you are single, don't rule out on line chatting.  You know the thing I like about chatting is that people tend to open up and really tell you so much about themselves.  You can really get to know people before they ever see you in person.  You get to know the inner person and the connection is a lot more deep.  You get more a mental connection than just a physical.  As everyone knows beauty is only skin deep but personality is forever.  </p> <p>So if you are looking in bars and at work and aren't finding that special person.  Try it out.  You never know you might meet a great guy or gal you normally wouldn't meet.</p> <p>But keep in mind you have to be careful.  If there is ever a feeling in your gut that something isn't right.  Don't meet them and try try again.  I wish you luck and have fun.</p> Apology and Forgiveness http://www.thejhub.com/home/Blog/Kerrberr2/373 http://www.thejhub.com/home/Blog/Kerrberr2/373 <h3 align="left"><font size="2">Hey everybody I found this online tonight and I had to cut and paste it for everyone to read.  I think the first paragraph is really true.  How many times does someone say "I am sorry" and you really don't quite believe what they are saying to you?  Forgiveness is the answer not the apology in itself the writer states.  But, I feel like it is both as long as they are true and full of feeling.  Check out the website there are a lot of other really great things he has to say and quite a few of them hit home with me.  Maybe I need to soften more?  I don't know anymore, when I was soft I was walked on when I became the person I am today no one likes me.  I guess I can't find my happy medium.  The goal in my life at this point is to make myself happy and try not to offend everyone in my path.  Am I hitting my goal?  Probably not as I am not  sure on anything any longer. I tend to stay lost in my own little world to avoid hurt, but that has made me cold and unfeeling people say.  So any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.   But I tell you what as long as when I die I feel as though I did my best that is all that will matter in the long run.  We can't make everyone happy in life, but we can try to not affect others with our actions or our words.</font></h3> <h3 align="left"><font size="2">I am in hopes that I will not do that in the future.  If I do I will apologize and I hope I will be forgiven.</font></h3> <h3 align="center">__________________________________________________</h3> <h3 align="center">Syd Allan: "Apology" and "Forgiveness"</h3> <h4 align="center"><code><u>www.jagular.com/apology.shtml</u></code></h4> <h4 align="center">April, 2002</h4> <p>     I have had cause recently to consider the precise definitions of the words "apology" and "forgiveness." What do these words really mean? Or, at least, what do I want them to mean for <em>me?</em> </p> <p>     The first thing that occurs to me is that the phrase "I apologize" (or its equivalent, "I'm sorry") has been greatly devalued through overuse. People say "I'm sorry" in trivial situations that don't <em>require</em> an apology. I suppose they do it to be polite, but I think that it does a disservice to the concept of apologizing. Imagine two people trying to go through a doorway from opposite sides. They almost collide because neither could have known that the other was on the other side of the door. One or both of them will almost certainly say that they are sorry. Sorry for <em>what?</em> The correct phrase is "Excuse me." Perhaps most people think that the two phrases mean the same thing, but I do not. </p> <p>     Many people will disagree with me on this. I suppose each of us can hold whatever meaning we like for each word in the English language, but I think that we would all be better off if we reserved the use of the words "I'm sorry" and "I forgive you" to the most sincere interactions with others, and stopped using them so casually. </p> <p>     If there were better words which could be used in serious circumstances, then I might think differently, but it seems to me that the less serious words are "excuse me" and "no problem" (or something similar). </p> <p>     People rarely apologize and forgive with sufficient sincerity. You will often hear an exchange such as: </p> <p>     "Say you're <u>sorry</u>!" </p> <p>     "<em>Okay!</em> I'm <u><em>sorry!</em></u>" </p> <p>     The sarcasm in the response is understood by everyone, but the person who "apologized" will still usually claim that they have done their duty. </p> <p>     It only takes a few seconds to do something that can hurt another person for a long, long time. People's lives can be changed by those hurtful things. In order to compensate for this we need to use the words "apology" and "forgiveness" in a more sincere way. </p> <p>     So, of what does an apology consist? To offer a sincere apology requires four things: <br /> </p> <ol> <li> <p>Admitting what you did wrong </p> <p> </p> </li> <li>Explaining why you did it <p> </p> </li> <li>Expressing regret that it happened <p> </p> </li> <li>Promising not to do it again </li> </ol> <p>     Some of these things can be implied. If I am wandering down the hall not watching where I am going, and I bump into you, then I should apologize to you. It is not the same as the earlier example of passing through the doorway, because I was obviously at fault. In this situation it is not necessary for me to admit explicitly that I bumped into you, or that I was not paying attention, because those things are obvious in the context of the situation. It is also not necessary for me to explicitly promise to watch where I am going in the future. If I offer a sincere "I'm sorry," then I have made a proper apology in that situation. </p> <p>     An apology is an admission, an explanation, and a promise. It is not merely an expression of regret. When you apologize for almost bumping into someone as you both come around a blind corner, you are devaluing the meaning of apologizing by treating it merely as an expression of regret that something happened. When it comes time for you to really apologize for something, do you really want to use a technique which is mostly reserved for trivial circumstances? </p> <p>     An apology is a serious thing, and the words "I'm sorry" should be used with sincerity. </p> <p>     "Forgiveness" is more difficult to define. If someone has offered a real apology for something, then forgiving them will certainly include an acceptance of their apology. But "I accept your apology" really just begs the question of what "accept your apology" means: it means "I forgive you," and then we are back to the definition of "forgiveness." </p> <p>     Forgiveness is also a promise: it is a promise to stop punishing someone for what they did. </p> <p>     I cannot think of a better definition than that. </p> <p>     If you forgive someone, and you subsequently punish them some more, then you owe them an apology for not abiding by your promise to forgive them. </p> <p>     And I don't think it is sufficient to just not punish them. To really forgive someone you have to not want them to receive any more punishment from anyone, and you have to really want them to stop feeling guilty for what they did. </p> <p>     So I suppose that forgiveness really consists of two things: not punishing someone any more, and changing your attitude about what they did, and not holding it against them any longer. Forgiveness is also a commitment to yourself that you will change your own thoughts about what happened. </p> <p>     Is it necessary to receive an apology before you offer forgiveness? If a person refuses to apologize to you, or they offer an apology which is obviously insincere or incomplete, then is there any point in forgiving them? </p> <p>     In a perfect world everyone would apologize for what they have done, and everyone else would forgive them after wards. Actually, in a perfect world I don't suppose anyone would ever do anything that required a subsequent apology, but in an almost-perfect world, every episode of forgiveness would be preceded by a sincere apology. I think that the main reason to forgive someone who has not apologized is that you yourself might need forgiveness from someone some day, and forgiving this person now will help you to deserve forgiveness later. What goes around, comes around. </p> <p>     Does forgiving someone imply that you accept the person's explanation of why they did it, or you believe their promise that they will not do it again? If someone steals from you, and then offers a sincere apology, and you accept their apology, then do you have to trust that they will not steal from you again? </p> <p>     I don't think that you do. A person who has stolen from you, or lied to you, has shown that they are capable of doing those things. Even after they apologize, and you forgive them, they still have to go on to earn your trust once again. Forgiving them means that you are promising not to punish them any more, but I think that you are still allowed to protect yourself in case they don't keep their promise not to do it again. If someone steals your jewelry, and you subsequently withhold from them the combination to your safe, then that it not punishment, it is just common sense -- at least until they have earned your trust once again. </p> <p>     Is there ever any point in forgiving someone who refuses to admit what they did wrong, or they do not regret the results of their actions, or they do not promise to refrain from doing it in the future? Should you ever forgive people who are not sorry for what they did? </p> <p>     This is not quite the same as the previous question. Not offering an apology is not the same as not being sorry. You can be sorry without offering an apology: you know what you did, you regret it, and you don't want to do it again -- you just don't say so to the other person. But not being sorry is more serious: it means that you do not think you did anything wrong. Should we forgive people who are not sorry? The difficulty in answering this question arises partly from our inability to know for certain whether another person is really sorry or not. Perhaps they say that they are not sorry, or that they did nothing wrong. A person like that might deserve to be punished in the future, so how can you forgive them, and thereby promise not to punish them? I think that if you cannot promise someone that you will not punish them in the future for what they have done, or you cannot erase from your mind your hard feelings over what they did, then you should not use the word "forgiveness." You should not tell them that you forgive them, and you should not decide in your own mind that you forgive them. Forgiveness is a commitment to them, and to yourself, and if you do not believe that you can keep those commitments then you should find some other word. </p> <p>     If you truly forgive someone for something, then is it actually important that they <em>know</em> that you forgive them, or is the purpose of forgiveness mostly to create a particular attitude in your own mind? </p> <p>     The more I think about it, the more I think that the most important aspect of forgiving someone is the change in your own attitude. They cannot really know what you mean by "forgiveness." You are promising to stop punishing them, and to change your attitude about them, but how can they know whether you will keep your promise? The most important part of forgiving someone is to change your own attitude about them. </p> <p>     I have been thinking about all of this because I want to tell my friend that I forgive her, and that she doesn't need to offer any more apologies, or to feel guilty any longer. She has admitted what she did, and explained it, and expressed regret, and I accept her apology. I offered forgiveness, and then went on to punish her again, and for that I would like to offer her my <em>own</em> apology. One of the best reasons for offering forgiveness to others is that most of us will be asking for forgiveness from others at some point in our lives. I have asked for it many times before, and expect to ask for it again. Civilized people try to make the world a better place than it would have been if they had never been born. My friend and I are trying to make the world a bit better, and she has made an apology, and I am offering forgiveness, as our small contributions to that end. </p> A Challenge for You! http://www.thejhub.com/home/Blog/Kerrberr2/368 http://www.thejhub.com/home/Blog/Kerrberr2/368 <p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 10pt; FONT-FAMILY: Arial"><font size="3">Okay everybody I have a question.  Why is it that people in this world tend to overlook so many people out there.  How many times have you worked with someone or been in a store and assumed that a person is something other than what they are?  </font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 10pt; FONT-FAMILY: Arial"><font size="3"></font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 10pt; FONT-FAMILY: Arial"><o:p><font size="3"></font></o:p></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 10pt; FONT-FAMILY: Arial"><font size="3">You know what I mean.  You see a shabby dressed person and assume they are poor or that they are homeless.  In all actuallity they are really just not into the big world of fashion and have their priorities elsewhere. <o:p></o:p></font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 10pt; FONT-FAMILY: Arial"><font size="3"></font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 10pt; FONT-FAMILY: Arial"><font size="3">I am sure there is someone you work with everyday that maybe they are very quiet or don't fit into that box you think they should be so you ignore the person or have decided that person is not a person to get close to. <o:p></o:p></font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 10pt; FONT-FAMILY: Arial"><font size="3"> <o:p></o:p></font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"><font size="3">I really think that we tend to label people way too much.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">  </span>I am the type of person that can tend to be a little abrasive at times and then other times I am a loner.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">  </span>Sometimes people think that I can be unreachable but in all actuality I am the complete opposite. Yes I am a larger lady but I know I have so much to offer the world as long as I get the chance too. I don’t know about many people in this town but I really doubt you have been barked at as you walk down the street.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">  </span>I have and it really hurts.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">  </span>Why do people do that?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">  </span>Something to do with their inner demons I guess.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">  </span>But no matter what it still hurts.</font></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"><font size="3"></font></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"><font size="3"></font></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"><font size="3">I think if people actually would accept people the way they are and over look the things that are different they would be amazed at what great people they miss out on. </font></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"><o:p><font size="3"> </font></o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"><font size="3">Just because someone has a personality that doesn’t fit in that small little accepted box doesn’t mean that they aren’t the best friend you might relish.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">  </span>I have come to accept people as they are not who they are.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">  </span>Deep inside everyone in this world has feelings, people that love them and they deserve <span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>respect for their accomplishments.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">  </span></font></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"><span style="mso-spacerun: yes"><font size="3"></font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"><span style="mso-spacerun: yes"><font size="3"></font></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"><font size="3">One of my closest friends might not look like a model or wear the top clothes but she is the most amazing woman.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">  </span>Her husband is so great and he treats her like a queen.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">  </span>I have never met a man that loves his wife so much.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">  </span>Most people really want the kind of love they share.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">  </span>They are wonderful people.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">  </span>They might not have a lot but they give so much to everyone.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">  </span>People on the outside would say they can’t have much but they have more than anyone else I know.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">  </span>I would love to have just half of the love that they have with each other.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">  </span>They are so lucky to have each other.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">  </span></font></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"><o:p><font size="3"> </font></o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"><font size="3">So when you see someone that doesn’t fit into your idea of what a person should be; look past the outer and really get to know the inner person.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">  </span>Don’t assume anything and don’t make others feel as though they are not worthy of you.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes">  </span>Inside every person is a soul and you will have the opportunity to see so much of you connect with that inner person.  So I challenge everyone in Pocatello to be the better person and look at the inner instead of the outer from now on.</font></p> YAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! http://www.thejhub.com/home/Blog/Kerrberr2/361 http://www.thejhub.com/home/Blog/Kerrberr2/361 <p>Can I just say I am so happy that the Holidays are now over.  The stress of making sure the right gift is given and that the people in your life are happy is so over whelming.  I really enjoy the holidays but anymore it seems like all you do is try not to hurt others feelings by not giving or doing the same for everyone.</p> <p>Yes I know the holidays aren't all about the presents.  I am talking about everything.  Did I spend enough time with Grandma, did the dogs get enough attention, what am I missing this year?  But then again, work tends to be the same way.  It seems like there is never enough time to get it all done.</p> <p>Now that this week is over Monday we can all get back on track.  No more stress of the Holidays just everyday work and family life.</p> <p>Hooray!!!!!!!</p> What happened to the last 6 months? http://www.thejhub.com/home/Blog/Kerrberr2/241 http://www.thejhub.com/home/Blog/Kerrberr2/241 <p><span style="FONT-SIZE: 9pt; FONT-FAMILY: Arial">Am I the only one that thinks time is passing by way too fast?  It seems like only yesterday that I took my son to his first day of elementary school.  Now he is a high school graduate and a working man.  Since graduation on May 31, 2007 the world has become a big blur.  I don't remember much because it flew by so quickly.<o:p></o:p></span></p> <p><span style="FONT-SIZE: 9pt; FONT-FAMILY: Arial">Do you remember the days back when we were kids and school went on forever? Yet the summer flew by.  Why is it that things have had to speed up so fast?  In a lot of ways it would be nice to have things back to the way they were in the 70's and 80's. I knew then what I knew now I would have been very dangerous.  HA HA<o:p></o:p></span></p> <p><span style="FONT-SIZE: 9pt; FONT-FAMILY: Arial">But really think about the lifestyle back then.  We didn't have gang shootings, the drugs were less potent and the world was a different place to live in.  There would be some good and some bad things if time stood still.  Technology has increased so much what would we do without our CD Players and DVD Players.  Our Laptops and our computers in everything we own.  My Dad says things were simpler back then.  You could change your own oil and brakes and not have to worry about a stupid computer telling you off.  <o:p></o:p></span></p> <p><span style="FONT-SIZE: 9pt; FONT-FAMILY: Arial">Yes the world has changed. It is your choice how you look at it I guess.  There are so many bad things that we can over look and just enjoy the good things.<o:p></o:p></span></p> <p><span style="FONT-SIZE: 9pt; FONT-FAMILY: Arial">I look forward to the future seeing where my career takes me and where my son ends up going.  Will he be a great artist or design the next video game that sells out the first day it is on the shelf?  Will he get married and give me grandchildren (MANY YEARS FROM NOW PLEASE!!!!). What is in store no one know and time is not telling anyone until it is good and ready.</span></p> I have been a bad girl! http://www.thejhub.com/home/Blog/Kerrberr2/186 http://www.thejhub.com/home/Blog/Kerrberr2/186 <font size="3"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: Arial"> <p><span style="FONT-SIZE: 9pt; FONT-FAMILY: Arial">Hey everyone how goes life as we now know it.  I don't know about all of you but I have been a very bad girl and have neglected my J-Hub responsibilities.  <o:p></o:p></span></p> <p style="TEXT-ALIGN: center" align="center"><span style="FONT-FAMILY: Arial">Forgive me Community for I have sinned</span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 9pt; FONT-FAMILY: Arial"><o:p></o:p></span></p> <p style="TEXT-ALIGN: center" align="center"> it has been 23 days since I added to my blog.</p> <p><span style="FONT-SIZE: 9pt; FONT-FAMILY: Arial">I know the sin put before you is a very deep and troubling one.  But what can I do?  I have had so much going on with work and home that actually sitting down to write has been very hard for me.  Okay I do have to admit I have been online chatting with people too.  So sue me I am trying to have somewhat of a personal life.  It isn't working the greatest but at least I am trying.  <o:p></o:p></span></p> <p><span style="FONT-SIZE: 9pt; FONT-FAMILY: Arial">Maybe some of you have a few suggestions.  I am old and work a lot so be kind.  <o:p></o:p></span></p> <p> </p> </span><span style="FONT-SIZE: 9pt; FONT-FAMILY: Arial"><o:p></o:p></span></font> Update on the Pocatello Crud http://www.thejhub.com/home/Blog/Kerrberr2/143 http://www.thejhub.com/home/Blog/Kerrberr2/143 <p>Well as of tonight everything is great.  No strep but man was my doctor surprised at the look of my throat.  Asked me what  I was in for and when I opened my mouth  I swear he took a step back and said "Man, your throat is bad!  Haven't seen that in a long time."  Guess that was my hint that I should have came in sooner.  He gave me a couple prescriptions and wished me well.  Man I hate taking drugs!  </p> <p>One of the things he gave me is a special gargle.   I tried it tonight and it is very different.  It actually numbs my whole mouth.  You know when you go to the dentist and part of your mouth is numb?  This is different, but the same.  You have the same sensation the only problem is the throat and the tongue are all affected too.  Kind of weird, but if it helps so I don't cough all night and my throat starts feeling better I am all for it.</p> <p>My suggestion to everyone is make sure if you get sick check in with the Doctor if you aren't better after 2 days.  Better to be safe than sorry that is for sure.</p>

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silly me.jpg Kerrberr2 The Pocatello Crud got me!!!! http://www.thejhub.com/home/Blog/Kerrberr2/133 http://www.thejhub.com/home/Blog/Kerrberr2/133 <p>Usually I am lucky enough not to get sick.  But, the Pocatello Crud really kicked my butt.  Yes, believe it or not I didn't go to work on Friday.  I had deadlines and I actually missed them because I was flat on my back in bed.  </p> <p>I noticed I wasn't feeling the greatest on Wednesday when my throat started hurting.  I really didn't think much of it.  I came to work on Thursday and I knew something was wrong.  I kept sneezing and coughing.  Everybody at work has been sick so I guess it was my turn.  I thought it wouldn't be more than just the throat.  Boy was I wrong.  After I left work it really kicked in.   I started getting the chills and the sweats. Then the body aches. When I woke up the next morning I was in bad shape.  I knew I better not go to work.  I never thought I would be so miserable.</p> <p align="center"><font size="4">If you can avoid it  DO!!  </font></p> <p>I still have a cough, but when I called urgent care they said it wouldn't be something they could help with.  Just take cold medicine and stay in.  Well I did and I will be back to work on Monday.  I missed my 2nd home and all the clients I work with.  Hope to hear from everyone this week. COUGH COUGH COUGH</p> Oh what people say..... http://www.thejhub.com/home/Blog/Kerrberr2/101 http://www.thejhub.com/home/Blog/Kerrberr2/101 You know I was just reading someones blog and I had to comment on it.  Someone made a comment that we have a strong gay community and did the writer really want to come back to town.   She hadn't really talked about this topic and I thought it was strange that someone would say such a thing.  There is nothing wrong with Pocatello.  The way I look at it yes there are a lot of people that tend to be on either one side or the other as far as religion, politics etc.  But, that is what competition is all about.  I feel as though Pocatello has really grown up a lot over the years.  Yes we do have a strong gay community.  So what!!  They are part of our community, they pay taxes (usually more than we do) they own businesses  I mean what are they hurting?  I really think too many people want to stereotype.  The last time I checked we all put our pants on one leg at a time and we all breathe the same air.  People need to get off their high horses and accept people for who they are and what they accomplish.  Not their differences.  Just because someone is fat doesn't mean they are lazy, just because someone is gay means they are going to corrupt our children and just because someone is stupid doesn't mean they can't learn.  Get a grip on the 21st century and give people a chance to be who they are and accept them for that.  Sure we might have different beliefs in religion, politics etc but everyone is human and we all have families.  Stop and think about how your family would feel if they heard someone put you down.  I really don't think that they would appreciate it.  There is my rant for the night.  Hope everyone is having a great weekend.Feel free to comment I love a good banter. Sand and stone http://www.thejhub.com/home/Blog/Kerrberr2/100 http://www.thejhub.com/home/Blog/Kerrberr2/100 <p>After having a really bad day yesterday, I recently received this via email from a close friend.  It really helped me and I hope it will help you.</p> <div><font face="Comic Sans MS" size="2"><strong>SAND & STONE<br /> <br /> <br /> Two Friends Were Walking Through The Desert.<br /> During Some Point Of The Journey, They Had An Argument And One Friend<br /> Slapped The Other One In The Face.<br /> The One Who Got Slapped Was Hurt, But Without Saying Anything, Wrote In The sand: Today My Best Friend Slapped Me In The Face.<br /> They Kept On Walking, Until They Found An Oasis, Where They Decided To Take A Bath The One Who Had Been  Slapped Got Stuck In The Mire And Started Drowning, But The Friend Saved Him.<br /> After He Recovered From The Near Drowning, He Wrote On A Stone:  "Today My Best Friend Saved My Life. "<br /> The Friend Who Had Slapped And Saved His Best Friend Asked Him "After I Hurt You, You Wrote In The Sand And Now, You Write On A Stone, Why?"<br /> The Friend Replied "When Someone Hurts Us We Should Write It Down In Sand, Where Winds Of Forgiveness Can Erase It Away.<br /> But, When Someone Does Something Good For Us, We Must Engrave It In Stone Where No Wind Can Ever Erase It."<br /> Learn to Write Your Hurts In The Sand And To Carve Your Benefits In Stone.<br /> They Say It Takes A Minute To Find A Special Person, An Hour To Appreciate Them, A Day To Love Them, But Then An Entire Life To Forget Them. Do Not Value The Things You Have In Your Life, But Value Who You Have In Your Life! </strong></font></div> <div> </div> <div>Sometimes I think that people forget that words and actions are just that.  I know that when I get mad I say things that I sometimes don't mean.  But I can not always forgive.  Maybe this is a way to get over the hurtful things that happen to me.  I really wish that the world was not the way it is. But, of course we can not change people, they must change themselves.  I hope that this helps others as much as it helped me.</div> <div> </div> In Remembrance of the Victims of 9-11 http://www.thejhub.com/home/Blog/Kerrberr2/97 http://www.thejhub.com/home/Blog/Kerrberr2/97 <p align="left"><font face="Comic Sans MS" size="2">As the day grows closer I really have to stop to remember all of our fallen citizens.  I really still have a problem dealing with everything that happened that fateful day.  I remember waking up that morning and my family calling me into the living room.  There on the screen was the the horrible pictures of the Twin Towers on fire and people running for their lives.  No one at that time knew exactly what had happened ot what the whole event would start.</font></p> <p align="left"><font face="Comic Sans MS" size="2">To think that one year before we felt as though we were safe and that nothing like this could happen in the United States of America.  The land that allows almost everyone into our country to educate them and live here.  Why is it that so many countries seem to feel that we are so bad when we help them so much?</font></p> <p align="left"><font face="Comic Sans MS" size="2">A great speaker once said the following:</font></p> <p align="center"><font face="Comic Sans MS" size="3">"Let every Nation know, whether it wishes us well or ill, that we shall pay any price, bear any burden, meet any hardship, support any friend, oppose any foe to assure the survival and success of Liberty."  John F Kennedy (1917 - 1963)</font></p> <p align="left"><font face="Comic Sans MS" size="2">Even in the 1960's we stood up for our liberty.  We didn't understand the word terrorism as we do now.  But we still made our feelings known to those countries that thought bad of us.  How any person could put that many lives in harms way is not understood by me.  I don't think that many people can understand this either.  </font></p> <p align="left"><font face="Comic Sans MS" size="2">Let us all remember the lives lost and the families that live everyday missing their loved ones that were lost that early morning of 9-11.  Not to mention the men and women still in Iraq standing up for our Liberty today.</font></p> <p align="left"><font face="Comic Sans MS" size="2">Our thoughts and prayers are with you all.</font></p>

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Caption: The Twin Towers
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236455142_ad49f0a418.jpg The Twin Towers Kerrberr2 My Night Out of the House http://www.thejhub.com/home/Blog/Kerrberr2/66 http://www.thejhub.com/home/Blog/Kerrberr2/66 <div><font face="Times New Roman" size="3"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt"> <div class="bako_posted">Sat Aug 25, 2007 01:36:10 MDT</div> <p class="MsoNormal">Well, I attended the Comedy Project's show tonight. It was a great experience. What a stress reliever. You know they say laughter is a great release of stress and makes you healthier. Well after tonight I am healthy as a horse. My sides ache and my throat is sore but I sure could use the laughter after my week. There will be another chance for all you that weren't able to make the show. Next week same time and place. The performers are college students and most of the audience is too. But I tell you what it is family friendly and pg13 in content. For 2 hours of entertainment you can't beat the price. It is a lot cheaper than going to a shrink and a whole lot more fun. See you next week! </p> <p class="MsoNormal"><font face="Times New Roman" size="3"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt"></span></font></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><font face="Times New Roman" size="3"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt">The Comedy Project is having a show this Friday, Aug. 24 at 10:00pm at the New Gateway Theatre on 2nd and Halliday St. <o:p></o:p></span></font></p> </span></font></div> <div> <p class="MsoNormal"><font face="Times New Roman" size="3"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt">Doors open a 9:30pm. Show at 10:00pm.<o:p></o:p></span></font></p> </div> <div> <p class="MsoNormal"><font face="Times New Roman" size="3"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt">We're doing a <strong><strong><font face="Times New Roman">Back to School </font></strong></strong>Special - $3 regular admittance  $2 if you have a student card.  What a deal for 2 hours worth of entertainment.  Laugh til your sides hurt fun!!!</span></font></p> </div> <div> <p class="MsoNormal"><font face="Times New Roman" size="3"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt">They will be doing an Armando Long Form for the first half (scenes based off of monologues) and Short Form games (<em><em><font face="Times New Roman">Whose Line Is It Anyway </font></em></em>Style) the last half. </span></font></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><font face="Times New Roman" size="3"><span style="FONT-SIZE: 12pt"><o:p>If you haven't been to a show you are missing out</o:p></span></font></p> </div> <div class="bako_linebreak"></div> <div class="bako_linebreak"></div> <div style="FLOAT: right"><a href="http://www.thejhub.com/home/EditComment/content/75"><strong><font color="#8f0000"><edit></font></strong></a> <a href="http://www.thejhub.com/home/MyComments/Delete75/content"><strong><font color="#8f0000"><delete></font></strong></a> </div> <br /> The Aftermath http://www.thejhub.com/home/Blog/Kerrberr2/63 http://www.thejhub.com/home/Blog/Kerrberr2/63 <p>Well the funeral is over and we have all said our good byes.  There were a few people there and people spoke of how Unkie had touched their lives. You know at the age of 89 it is really hard for the people in his age bracket to make it to a funeral.  One gentleman that was there knew Unkie from college and they shared an apartment with 3 other guys.  Believe it or not the apartment was only $30 a month and included utilities.  They split the cost between 5 people.  But keep in mind they only made 10 cents an hour back then.  Here my son at 18 is complaining about making $6.50 an hour washing dishes.  Heck I only made 3.85 at his age.  Boy times have changed.  My cousin spoke of a hunting trip he took with Unkie and he really wanted to "Blast the deer"  and Unkie reached up and stopped him and they just sat there watching the deer wander away.  This really shows the care and the love Unkie had for all living creatures.</p> <p>It was a nice funeral I just wish more people were able to come.  Unkie is happy again and we are happy for him.  The suffering he has had the last few years is now over and he is once again back with the love of his life and all his family.  We will miss his razing and his fun little pranks, but remember him for so much more.</p> <p> </p> Greiving and Loss http://www.thejhub.com/home/Blog/Kerrberr2/60 http://www.thejhub.com/home/Blog/Kerrberr2/60 <p>As I sit here typing today I am reflecting on my life.  Tomorrow I will be attending the funeral of my great uncle.  He is the baby brother of my grandma.  I remember as a small child thinking he was such a cool guy.  He was fun and accepted me no matter what.  We spent many holidays together because his home was only 2 blocks from my grandma's.  </p> <p>As I looked into the coffin tonight I didn't even recognize the man I lovingly called Unkie.  He was so frail and seemed so small compared to the man I once had to look up to as a child.  At only 89 years of age he seemed to have shrunk a whole 12 inches.  </p> <p>I thought so much of this man that I even named my son after him.  Now I look in the casket and can't even recognize him.  Why does age have to change people so much.  I will have to struggle tomorrow at the funeral as it will be a very difficult time for the whole family.  </p> <p>He is at peace now so we must be happy for him.  He is seeing family members again that he hasn't seen for years or even decades.  I know that my grandpa was waiting for him with open arms.  Unkie was a great man and had the patience of Job.  I look forward to seeing him again someday, but until that time many years from now I hope he knows the whole family is missing him and loving him.</p> <p>You will always be loved and missed</p> <p>Ted Gautier</p> <p>Love from your great niece</p> Positive thoughts http://www.thejhub.com/home/Blog/Kerrberr2/59 http://www.thejhub.com/home/Blog/Kerrberr2/59 <p>I just want to leave a quick item for everyone to think about.  I believe that the Golden Rule is the way to live life.</p> <p>"Do unto others as you would want them to do unto you"</p> <p>Even when you are having a bad day try to be as positive as you can.  I know it is hard, but it makes such a big difference in your day as well as others.  </p> <p>I came to work today with a bad sinus headache.  I noticed that people could tell I wasn't feeling good.  They noticed my attitude was not the usual one I carry.  So when you say no one cares or no one notices I beg to differ.</p> <p>Try smiling and saying hi!  Even just doing something people don't expect will make such a difference.  Let someone know you really care.  Remember the "Golden Rule" everyday.</p>