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harymeather - > Heather's life -> aargh!
aargh!
Man, life can be so hard sometimes! My poor children, I fail them so often. They deserve a calm, clean orderly home, where cool heads prevail. Instead, they live in a chaotic home, with a mother who can't stay organized to save her life! Chaotic as in CHAOS, if you've ever heard of the "Fly Lady"--she writes books on cleaning--she said it best. CHAOS stands for Can't  Have  Anyone  Over  Syndrome. That describes my situation to a tee! :) My new years resolution is to beat this. Chrismas is a wonderful time of year, but I nearly ruined it for myself with the CHAOS that is my home. I love my kids, I love being a mom, but I am so overwhelmed some days. I don't even know where to begin. If your readng this, sorry--its a pointless blog--I just needed to vent and this seemed a good outlet. I'm sitting here at my computer, sick to my stomach, just recovering from a near panick attack. How do I get through this? I have no idea. Why do I seem to be the only mom who struggles every second of every day to keep even just a little order in her home? Am I the only one? Or the only one who wil admit it? Is there something wrong with me? I want to be a good example and teach my kids good organizational and cleaning skills, but I don't even have them myself.......Aaargh!!! 
Topics: House and Home, personal struggles
posted by harymeather on Wednesday, December 26, 2007 at 11:04 PM
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posted by Darkwolf on Dec 27, 2007 at 03:33 AM
You are not the only one...being single I have a heck of a time keeping my home clean.  I finally gave up and just tiddy up on the weekends.

I use the advice someone once gave me, if someone is over and starts to nit pick about how your house looks, then they are not there to visit you in the first place. 

I have even tried to get my cat to help clean, but she just helps out by holding the bed down.  Must be hard, she is always asleep doing it.

Another piece of advise that helps is a phrase, "How do you eat a watermelon?"  the answer is in small bites.  What seems overwhelming as a whole, is actually easy if you take it in small steps and before you k now it, the task is done. 

Now for cleaning, depending on the age of your kids, give them tasks to help out, but instead of calling a chore, make it into a game with a prize at the end.  Kids will happily help out if they think it is fun.  Give them small tasks and eventually the big chore is done.  At least that is what my mother did.
posted by shanna on Dec 27, 2007 at 11:56 AM
Wow there is another mother out there that goes through what I do everday LOL?  I have two kids of my own one 6 and one 11 and oh man when it is my days with them (me and my ex have joint custody) my house looks like a couple of tornadoes came through it and I get so stressed.  I can't stand my house being in disorder but as soon as I clean it, my kids go through it right behind me and it looks like i never cleaned it to begin with.  My boyfriend tells me there is no use in cleaning it when the kids are here.  My ex waits till the kids are gone to clean his too and trust me his is worse then mine when he has the kids LOL.  My ex told me he doesn't bother cleaning when the kids are there either he always waits till they are gone.  But if you have them all the time that would be even harder to keep it clean.  But I like the comment that Darkwolf said "small steps" I think I will try that.  I have my kids do small chores but I am impatient I want it done know not in 10 mins and I want it done fast not take 1/2 hour to do so it is hard for me to wait for them to get it done.  then of course it is not good enough LOL.  Anway I do struggle daily with chores and stress daily about my house being messy just once i would loke to be able to have a clean house for atleast a week LOL.
posted by harymeather on Dec 27, 2007 at 11:29 PM
Thanks for your comments, its nice to be reminded that what I go through us somewhat normal! And thanks for the ideas!
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