How is everyone in Pocatello and the surrounding area?  Me I am doing great!  Actually I have to say I am really quite surprised.  You might ask why? 

Well as most of you know I write a lot about me being a big girl.  It is quite an issue that  have fought basically all my life.  Because of my size I always have felt that people were looking at me instead of seeing me.  The real me.  Well I turn 40 in October and I guess I felt like "Oh my Gosh!  I am going to be 40 and I am still single!!"  Well I finally decided to let go of my fears and start doing some dating. 

To my surprise I have actually met quite a few people that accept me for me.  The last 18 years I have been so scared to meet people.  Yes me the outgoing crazy girl I can be was afraid to date!  Shocking  know but I have had a lot of reasons.  I have had guys actually tell me how no one would want me or that my size was such a turn off.  You know that "If you would just lose weight guys would notice you " crap. 

Well in 1996 I had gastric bypass surgery for weight loss.  I lost close to 200 or so pounds.  I was looking good and I felt good.  Did it really matter not really.  I saw guys check me out but I didn't have anymore dates than I did when I was over 300 lbs.  Yes I did get married but what a mistake that was.  It only lasted 2 years and I was miserable.  But that is another story.

Anyways, I started chatting on line with people and when a guy asked me to meet him for coffee I decided to not make my usual excuses and headed to Starbucks.  You know not everyone you meet is going to be Prince Charming but life is too short and I need friends too. 

 If you are single, don't rule out on line chatting.  You know the thing I like about chatting is that people tend to open up and really tell you so much about themselves.  You can really get to know people before they ever see you in person.  You get to know the inner person and the connection is a lot more deep.  You get more a mental connection than just a physical.  As everyone knows beauty is only skin deep but personality is forever. 

So if you are looking in bars and at work and aren't finding that special person.  Try it out.  You never know you might meet a great guy or gal you normally wouldn't meet.

But keep in mind you have to be careful.  If there is ever a feeling in your gut that something isn't right.  Don't meet them and try try again.  I wish you luck and have fun.