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Dealing with older parents
My mom is in her 90's, living independently and still driving short distances from her home-store, bank hairdresser etc. But she is planning on selling her mobile home and getting an apartment to save her the headaches of having maintenance, yardwork etc done. I want her to go into an assisted livng place just so she will have some social interaction but she thinks they are too expensive. She has a little money saved and wants to make sure that her kids have something of it 'when she is gone'! My siblings and I all share the thoughts that we would rather she spend it on herself than leave it to us. I have talked a lot about what I think she should do but she still has an independent mind and attitude and just wants to live in a regular apartment. I guess I will just go along with her until she falls down or something more serious happens. Then we will take the days as they come. I can only hope that if and when I reach that age, I will remember that my kids are only looking out for my best interests and try to heed what they say. 2 comments from 2 users
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posted by
marci4tony
on Sep 18, 2007 at 03:30 PM
"If you’re looking into assisted living facilities, you may find that they can be quite expensive, especially for those who are retired and living on a fixed income. In order to help pay for prolonged adult care, contact the assisted living facility’s consultant to see if they accept payments from insurance providers or Medicare. You will find that many of the centers that accept insurance and Medicare payment offer the same community programs, nursing, apartments, and other services that can provide seniors with independent living in a retirement village as those that do not accept these payment methods. Getting the personal care that some elderly people require doesn’t have to be extremely expensive; nor does the senior have to accept substandard homes, nursing, and community programs that he or she needs to lead a healthy, fulfilling life." I saw the price for one - not mentioned - of $695.00. My suggestion to you would be to make some phone calls and do some research - Maybe divide up the places between the children so that everyone feels that they are taking part. You may find that she is correct; but you may also find some quality information for her. I understand how you feel, and I'm sorry that's happening in your life. Good luck in your quest! posted by
GrandmaSinSS06
on Sep 18, 2007 at 03:38 PM
Thanks so much for your good tips and helpful suggestions. I appreciate your reading my blog (frustrations)! :-)
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